Where women lack their right and responsibility?

 

Men are men in any part of the world, so is the case of women in the world, but there is a question arising on gender equality all the time. The women liberal thinking of attaining gender equality does not fetch the justice to their liberal thinking, but on the contrary, it would worsen their status in the society.

Although women across the globe think and act alike, there could be some nuance of thinking and acting by them. Women in American and European countries give less priorities in golden jewellery, whereas the case is other way around in India. Women in the African tribal territory, who walk half naked without any embarrassment, cannot be compared with the civilized societies in developed countries.  Women who stay with multi-relative system before and after their marriage in India are different from nuclear families in Western countries. Among a few differences, one common and concrete similarity in women in all over the world is ‘motherliness’, irrespective of one becomes motherhood or not. This is called ‘Matrutva’ in Sanskrit. The clement action or compassionate words are inherent naturally to women in any part of the world.

Women are basically born for caring and controlling the house and household, however, with the onset of cultural exchange between countries, most of the women have now lost their identity of their own culture and country. India is no more exception to this.

The role of women in ancient Indian literature is immense.  Ancient India had many learned ladies. There were two types of scholarly women — the Brahmavadinis, or the women who never married and chant Vedas throughout their lives and the Sadyodvadhus are those who became Vadhus or brides straightaway on the attainment of puberty, without undergoing the training in the Vedic studies.  Apart from Vedic learning and teaching, women were writing Sanskrit plays and verses, excelled in music, painting and other fine arts.  Women had enjoyed prominent roles in politics too in ancient India.  The foreign visitor, Megasthenes who was an ancient Greek historian, diplomat and Indian ethnographer and explorer in the Hellenistic period, author of the work ‘Indika’, mentioned that the Pandya women were running the administration.   The Satavahana queen, “Nayanika ruled the kingdom on behalf of her minor son, so did Prabavati, daughter of Chandragupta II, on behalf of the minor prince, are a few examples to understand women administration skills. The unknown fact is, in the ancient times is that even Kings used to request the scholarly women of their family or their kingdom, to address the issues faced by them. The best known woman administrators in our recent memory are, Jhansi Rani Lakshmi Bai, Rani Mangamma, Rudramma Devi, et al.

With such awe legacy behind in Indian women, where they lost their way in recent times?

The atrocity on women are being highlighted in every newspaper now and then.  The data were shown in the manner that India is the epicentre for the women atrocity in any manner.  An American website (https://www.rainn.org) claims that on average, there are 321,500 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States, the country we consider most developed and dominant.  The website also ascertains the following:

  • 82% of all juvenile victims are female. 90% of adult rape victims are female.
  • Females ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.
  • Women ages 18-24 who are college students are 3 times more likely than women in general to experience sexual violence. Females of the same age who are not enrolled in college are 4 times more likely.

On the worst side, millions of men in the United States have been victims of rape, the website claims.   In the revealed data says, 1 out of every 10 rape victims are male.  To one’s dismay, sexual violence in the military often goes unreported in the United States, according the website.

The case of India reveals the different story.  Assault on women with intent to outrage her modesty in the year 2014 shows 82,235.  Whereas the rape cases were 36,735 in the same year.  (Source: data.gov.in & ncrb.gov.in).  Those are few availed data from the website.

Well, there is no need to feel better on Indian incidents with the comparison of American. Although India is a much populated country than US, the crime rates are far below that of the US. Even one petty crime against women reported in any corner of the country is worth worrying.  Are crimes against women only by men?  There were 122,877 cases reported in the same year under cruelty by husband and other relatives.  Under Dowry Prohibition Act and Domestic Violence Act, there were 10,050 and 426 cases reported respectively.  One Nirbhaya case changed the thinking for reporting of crimes against women in India.

The Nirbhaya Act, implemented thereafter, did not curtail crime against women, but only persuaded the common public for reporting more such crimes.  The reporting could go higher in counting when the justice is given in a shorter period.  In the present scenario, the justice delivery rate of such crimes is a deterrent for many people to come forward to report.

On the other side, it gives feast to the news agencies to highlight such crimes in India and defaming the country’s image in worldwide.   India is a vast country (1.28 billion people where women are 624 million as of March 28, 2015 according to: http://www.indiaonlinepages.com/population/india-current-population.html) and atrocity against women are in fewer lakhs.  It does not mean to ignore these figures, but at the same time it should not be considered as alarming!

In the wake of fighting for women’s freedom in India by the so called reformers in both genders, the common women were being pushed into the darkness of unawareness of their unique places in the society.

The role and responsibilities of Indian women are often misunderstood and misconstrued by the so called reformers of women’s freedom.  The deviated women today in India are edging towards destruction of well-constructed indigenous society.

What actually Women freedom means?

–      Is it something like walking in the midnight in an impolite dress which provokes rogues and rowdy people to misbehave?

–      Is it something like smoking in the mid of the streets or drinking in the pub along with boyfriends?

–      Is it something like any comment made on women for the sake of their benefit which is simply arguing and opposing without understanding the very essence of it?

–      Is it something like using their gender opportunism to sideline their men colleagues?

Unfortunately, today most of women in the name of reform and modernisation, losing their cultural identity.  Women today with the urge of making money, go to jobs at different timings leaving their family members at bay.  No children could be brought-up as better citizen in the hands of men.  Men don’t have patience to look after family members in terms of organising food, clothes and other amenities like an Indian woman.  The family that deprived women’s care, never stood-up on its own for family, society and the country.  The Indian women do not need to be taught about her responsibilities as she learns them from her childhood.

India from the ancient times, worshiped women as Goddess.  Each and every Indian epics will usher to this fact.  Every Indian woman is being called ‘Grahalakshmi’.  Nowhere in the world, one will find women are acclaimed to this high position. Its Indian women to feel proud of such admiring.

Now the game starts.  Are the Indian women are deserving of such qualitative appreciation of calling ‘Grahalakshmi’, even today?  Sadly, no!  Women in the search of money, be it Indian or any other countries, be it for running their own family’s sake or for the sake of lavish family life, definitely lost their hold in the home.  Husbands are left uncared in most the cases, being women are working with the different shifts, they unable to follow up their husband’s ins and outs.  Men are being careless by nature, in most of the cases, movements of children are simply ignored.  Old people in the house, irrespective of any side, will obviously have chance blame both, especially the working woman.  After working with a hectic schedule in the offices, where she will be able to address these issues?

One of my classmates, a woman, commented such high appreciation, calling a woman as ‘Grahalakshmi’ is as enticing tactics.  She said that by throwing these alluring terms, Indian women are treated as slaves in their own houses.  How Sad!  I really felt bad such misinterpretation.  No house will prosper without due respect to the women in the family.  I have even seen some houses where women were dominating personalities.  Even to the level that I have witnessed the houses in which women were main bread winners, where household men were treated very unpleasant way.  Women where with highly paid salary treated disrespectfully in the low paid husbands, I am told.  I tried my best part to convince her the role of women in Indian society, but ended with disappointment sadly.  She was always talking about the rights of women’s freedom in every field.  Fine!

The right they should fight for, not mere women freedom, but for the right of education to the every girl child;

The right they should fight for, to bring-down the crime rates against women;

The right they should fight for, is stop the domestic violence against them;

The right they should fight for, job equality in both government and private sectors;

The right they should fight for, an equal place in the armed forces;

The right they should fight for, an equal space in science and technology sectors.

As far as Indian women are considered, the family first and the others next.  No country woman takes the role that an Indian woman takes.  The genetic quality of Indian women for caring the family is not been seen any other part of the world, it is evolved generation by generation.  The place of Indian women in the society cannot be filled by men, indeed.

 

Author: Balaji Canchi Sistla

On 8-3-2017 at 9.30 AM, Hyderabad

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